Grief Recovery Method

A lot of people do not even think that they have experienced grief. The world around us have taught us that grief is the time of sadness after a person you loved has passed away. Would you be shocked to hear that it isn’t? Grief is so many different things, Grief is the loss or change of anything in your life. You may be surprised that there is over 40, yes 40 different types of losses people can encounter in their lifetime, including death of a loved one, miscarriages, financial or health changes, long-term illnesses, breakups, death of a pet, and devastating childhood experiences to name a few. I’m sure now I have named a few you have realised you have actually suffered with grief but can you truly say you healed from it?

Grief Recovery enables you to work on the methods that you use to deal with grief and turn them into more positive habits for the future. Thinking back, was you ever told as a child when you were crying to  'go to your room'. What an innocent comment that is, may be one of your first thoughts, however really looking into that quote what does it stand for? If you are going to cry, go do it somewhere else. Inevitably teaching you to 'grieve alone'. As you've grown older have you found yourself 'needing space' or going somewhere when things get tough, all habits in our life are taught and nourished by our surroundings.

Now imagine you have broken your leg? Would you leave your leg broken? Of course you wouldn’t, you would recognise you're hurt, go get help and recovery from your injury but why when our heart breaks do we not seek attention or focus on the recovery? It does not matter how long ago the loss that you are now thinking of happened, it is never too late to heal your broken heart.

What brought me to the Grief Recovery Method?

After years of trying numerous different methods of self-healing, 6 years later, I still felt empty, confused, lost and hurt by the thought of my move away from home when I was 19.

In the time I moved away, I experienced so many different losses, loss of family, loss of friends, loss of safety, loss of trust, health and a loss of my personal identity. It was a moment in my life where I felt my most vulnerable.

When I moved back home, my mood enlightened being around people who loved me but the pain of what I experienced did not go away, it was something that guided my every day reactions and feelings to situations happening around me. I went on to get married and give birth to two wonderful children who make me smile every day, however my every day thoughts and decisions were heavily impacted by what happened to me when I moved away from home and the pain lingered under the surface. I just wanted to be free.

After years of searching and attempting many different coping methods, I found the Grief Recovery Method and to say it has been life transforming for me is an understatement. It enabled me to find peace again, to work on myself and learn to love myself again. It also enabled me to find unresolved issues that I never even knew were there!

My Grief Recovery Method Journey

I was sceptical when I found the grief recovery method, I had tried every method of self-healing apart from therapists and counsellors. I told myself daily ‘You are not bad enough to warrant a therapist or counsellor, people go through worse’, I pushed myself to ‘stay busy’ ‘forget’ and ‘stay strong for others’ which of course works, for a while. I honestly went into the programme not knowing whether it was truly going to work or not for me but thought why not give it a go.

Throughout the process, I laughed, I cried, I laughed till I cried, I felt all sorts of different emotions but most importantly, I found and remembered things that I didn’t even know were there that have impacted my life, the decisions I make and my reactions to situations. I learnt how to be myself again and how to feel in control of my own happiness. It put me on the path of recovery to heal my broken heart and work on the person who was there before that I had lost somewhere along the way.

My specialist gave me a safe place where I could go to, to share my thoughts, feelings and experience with no worry of being judged. She listened, guided and protected me.

I became a Grief Recovery Method Specialist

The reason I became a Grief Recovery Method Specialist is because the method for me was so transformative and has enabled me to live a more full and happy life. I want to support each and every person who are willing to heal their incomplete relationships and truly feel happiness again.

Now I go back to my first thought of 'You are not bad enough to warrant a therapist or counsellor, people go through worse’ - Many of us are not therapists or counsellors but are specialists and have been trained specifically to support and guide you in this evidence based method that works to help heal broken hearts. This does not mean we will help you to forget what happened but we will work with you to help take the pain away that links with that memory.

I am so happy, I decided to go through the journey with my specialist, this may be something you go through once for a one-to-one for a seven week course, or an eight week group session, or something you come back again so you are able to work on other losses in your life. Whatever you choose, is okay.

I truly do not believe in my heart that there is a person in the world who does not need to do this program and would benefit from it in some way.

Please get in contact with me for a recovery call where I can support and guide you to healing your broken heart.